Some people can be a bit vague about what they want and I often end up asking them “so what does that mean to you?” and some times I have to repeatedly as this question, to the point where I sound like a robot.
When I ask what someone wants in a session, I can get sometimes get answers such as
“I would like to be told what to do” or “order me around”
“I want general domination” or “a bit or everything”
“do anything you like I am up for anything”
So, as I want the session to go well, and not just make a wild guess, I then ask, what does that mean to you, and get you to elaborate on what you mean. Quite often people have a specific idea, so general domination to one person means a light spanking, to another it means tied up and teased, to another some strap on. But as I am not a mind reader I cant just make a guess.
I have had people complain they have seen another mistress who after hearing their “I am up for anything” line has done a session over and above what they could take, or done a particular activity in a session which did nothing for them, for example, putting someone in hold-ups and knickers only works if that person is into it, otherwise its a total waste of time, or being spanked and left with marks as you said you were “up for anything”. So I have learnt to really quiz someone and make sure that I am going to do a session that fits in with what they want.
When booking any mistress, always be super clear about what you enjoy, or really hate. I know I am meant to take control (which I do), but there is no point in me using a large dildo on you (which I enjoy) if you really dislike that particular activity, or spanking you and leaving marks if you can’t have it. Look on the ladies website, at her list of specialities and request a session based around the things on the list you like the sound of, and be clear about you limits, and use a safe word if necessary.